Patience with parents

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled,his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. We must do something about Grandfather,” said the son. I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor. So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.

When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?” Just as sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food when I grow up.” The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took Grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

Allah mentions in Surah Bani-Israil 17:23-24

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.”




Aku resah
Bagaikan malam tiada bintang
Bagaikan samudera tiada hidupan
Bagaikan bernafas tiada udara
Bagaikan bernyawa tiada diri

Aku hairan
Pelik dengan kenyataan terbentang
Bagaimana harusku cantum
Agar menjadi potret indah
Kelihatan mudah
Termengah-mengah mencari
Kesesakan jelas tergapai
Sampai di satu sudut
Aku rasa bosan

Kealpaan meyelubungi
Persis tidak pasti
Akan siang dan malam
Akan hitam dan putih
Akan noda dan suci

Merayu meminta fitrahnya diri
Airmata bercucuran deras
Masih bingung akan kenyataan
Mohon diberkati acapkali
Tapi masih rasa dipinggir
Terputuskah sudah?

Ya Allah, semua takdir yang menimpaku, baik atau buruk semakin menuntunku ke jalanMu

-UkhT^|LaLL|qa >_^

Munajat cinta

Hadir di dalam kemalapan
Menerangi harapan
Menguatkan keyakinan
Mengutuhkan semangat
Fikirku..Pulang bersama impian
Cuba meminta didorongi
Tangan diangkat
Kata-kata mengalun, bergema
Di kamarku menyendiri
Menghadap, bermunajat

Debaran hati menanti penuh tandatanya
Tidak pasti apakah risikan
Diredhai atau tidak disenangi
Aku cuba terima

Ketentuan telah menetap
Telah diatur zaman berzaman
Walau rancangan cuba mendahului
Airmata menderas tatkala terdengar
Ini rupanya rancanganMu untukku, Ya Allah…

Redhalah wahai hati
Tenanglah wahai jiwa
Lihatlah hikmahNya wahai mata
Dengarlah bisikan hidayahNya wahai telinga
Hidulah keharuman ketentuanNya wahai pancaindera
Sesungguhnya ini yang terbaik buat dirimu


Thanks Allah :)


yep, alhamdulillah.. now, im able to accept everythg. i hope Allah forgives me and my family.

saLam takziah mohammad rafiq’s family tho i din noe him. he’s actually abg fir’s friend. and i juz got to noe that from Fir.

“org2 baik selalu Allah da amik dulu kan??”

ok, lemme qoute from surah Al-hadid verse 23..
“(Kami jelaskan yang demikian itu) supaya kamu jgn berdukacita terhadap apa yang luput darimu dan tidak pula terlalu gembira dgn nikmat yang diberikanNya kpdmu…”

it’s alwez easy to say. alwez. i agree. and i believe that the tests given are the signs of His loves.

‘Allah loves us exactly the way we need to be loved. and through this love, He gives gifts that are truly unique. Something that is suitable for person and that person only. Its a reflection of how well He knows us and what we need.
Sometimes that gift is something we have longed for; sometimes that gift is unexpected favour. At other times, Allah shows us His love by giving us problems and hard times which instil in us discipline and force us to grow better and stronger’ 🙂

fir got share smthg with me one hadith qudsi. but pardon me, im not so sure of the accurate one. yet to find. insyaAllah kalau da jmp, nanti ana share..

bunyinyer smthg like this.. “Allah berkate pade malaikat, turunkan lan ujian dan balak kpd hamba2ku krn aku rindu rintihan2 mereka padeKu di waktu malam….” jembu kan? hee~

hmm… maybe it takes me the harder way to noe Him closer. but thanks Allah~
‘alaa kulli haal, semoga aku makin tabah dan semoga imanku meningkat, ameen.

another hadith qudsi to share. taken from

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Allah (mighty and sublime be He) said:
Whosoever shows enmity to someone devoted to Me, I shall be at war with him. My servant draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him. When I love him I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about anything as much as I hesitate about [seizing] the soul of My faithful servant: he hates death and I hate hurting him.

It was related by al-Bukhari.

another one:

On the authority of Anas (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) say: Allah the Almighty said:
O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great at it.

It was related by at-Tirmidhi (also by Ahmad ibn Hanbal). Its chain of authorities is sound.

last but not least,

Patience is the best armour of the believer 🙂

Most of the Time?? But why?? :S

Most of the time, we thought that we are always not on the ‘lucky’ sides, we rarely get what we want, we’ll get jealous whenever somebody in this planet is richer and better in any sense. We occupy ourselves with things that other people have but we rarely/never think what we have.


Most of the time, when we hear the call for prayers, we’ll say to ourselves, “k wait! I’ve more important and urgent things to attend to”. Time passes and finally we get our prayers done. Instant and express. We just want to get over it. We pray for the sake of praying. We pray for the sake of Allah ask us to pray. We quicken our movements in solat and tadaaa.. ‘assalaamualaikum warah matullah…” im done!


Most of the time, we know that to be in ‘illegal’ relationship is wrong. But still we thought that Allah is the Most-Forgiving. We spend hours and hours talking over the phone with him/her. Not to forget salam before and after the perceived-as-clean-and-pure conversation. When a reminder is given, we deny it and say that ‘I know’.


Most of the time, we know that we shouldn’t go out alone with guys who is not our mahram. “Ooh, I’ll just want to return his book I’ve borrowed a long time ago. By the way, we are not meeting in dark places. It’s just at orchard. Lotsa people there. Don’t worry =)”


Most of the time, we know that to hold grudges againts brothers in Islam is not pleased. We make faces in front of him. We always think that we are far away better from him in all aspects. We hesitate to purify the relationships.


Most of the time, we know that going to pub to drink, mingle freely with girls ignoring segregation between two cant-mixed-unless-stated species are forbidden. We say that our intention is not that and furthermore Allah will see our hearts and judge our intentions.


Loads of whyS and the answerS lie within us. Take time to ponder about it.